Receptivity, or as I like to call it, the Art of Receiving, is not just a surrendering into stillness, it’s often more active than that.
Out of the Feminine Traits of Receptivity, Creating, Nurturing, Connecting, Circular Thinking, and Being in Flow, I find Receiving the most difficult for me.
Receiving (or Allowing), requires opening. Softening. Allowing in the light, love, life that is flowing in and through us. Not fighting it. So often we are at war with reality.
We tend to operate with some level of constriction, resistance, or withholding. This keeps us out of the flow of Life, Grace, and what I call Magic.
Also, what have we learned about holding on? When tightly grabbing or squeezing anything, Love, control, children, or pets, our actions work exactly in the opposite of what we are wanting…more love.
Where I play the game is often in pushing away or demanding from Life, or Source, or my relationships. Even with my work and money.
This ineffective practice also requires much more effort!
If there is one thing I’ve learned about feminine energy, is that it is
e f f o r t l e s s…
it flows constantly, like water.
When we find ourselves striving, pushing, forcing, it’s typically an indicator of time to take a break. Breathe, dance, sip on tea, or walk outside to clear the head and allow a softer and more intuitive answer to come. One that’s easier to implement, involves less effort.
Receiving has a place that is overlooked in our fast-paced, fast-moving, fast-thinking world. We can’t operate our bodies and minds without eating and eliminating. Even more essential, is our breath. Exhaling would be impossible if we didn’t receive a breath first.
And this beautiful reminder of Receiving is at the core of Feminine energy. We need to receive the life force to create anything. The idea or concept of change often comes from asking and receiving the guidance or answer.
This morning I noticed that it’s truly difficult for me to Receive without some type of laying the groundwork. That’s not always the case, yet it helps for the channel to be clear and the connection to be free of static.
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It’s rare and takes courage. It’s collective and co-creative and collaborative.
We are all learning to be more of our self, our highest and best versions of ourSelf. And, to do so we need to do our inner work.
Monthly, we are guided by the phases of the moon to do the deeper work of releasing and listening to see what is coming through us, what wants to become “real” from our visions, dreams, and goals.
The new moon is a darker night, feels more magical and mysterious. These nights bring forth the fertile soil to plant new seeds, ideas, initiatives, or patterns of behavior.
I like to take the time to write out, speak or share with another, what I’m releasing and what I’m bringing forth.
The beauty of burning this (whether a stick, a log or the piece of paper you wrote out your thoughts on) allows you to see the visual of the concept changing form.
Other ways besides a fire ceremony are to literally give away old items, clear time on the calendar, or clean up your finances, all of which provide new space for what you are bringing forth. Making the space for what is coming into our lives both energetically and physically.
What are you bringing forth? Who are you calling into your life? What types of support or community do you want or need?
What new moon rituals do you practice?
The recording begins with a cry from my cat, Salem. He’s a constant reminder for me of grounding and being fully present. Enjoy!
For more ideas (or for a community to practice with) connect with me, I’ve got guided meditations and curriculum to share each month from Unify Global Sisterhood and The TreeSisters.
Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting
Stepping into a Higher Version
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Last week I attended The Leadership Circle™ Summit. It was way more than a training opportunity. Or a vacation. Or a conference with like-minded hearts, minds and souls.
Last week was my own Axial experience.
“Axial” in that it was a pivotal moment when I could see all of who I have been coming together for this particular group of people, with that specific location, and those unique speakers and leaders. I knew it was going to be life-changing…just wish I knew how much was going to shift for me and those around me.
We had speakers from NASA to Harvard, experts from Google and MIT, Tai Chi Masters and international journalists and beekeepers who all shared their authentic selves and messages.
I was literally in heaven!
Beautiful conscious deep conversations…moments of transformative learning … tears and laughter of intimate sharing.
So many memories!
Lots of new people that I was initially feeling disconnected or separate from have now become new friends, colleagues, connections, and potential partners.
Then the re-entry. A term many of us at the Summit used to describe our returning to our Real Life. It’s been a rough one, personally, professionally and on a spiritual level too.
At this time of continued heartbreak, chaos, low confidence or trust in our nation’s leadership and the mixed messages from our media, it’s time for us to find this Summit within. And, from that strength of inner knowing, groundedness in our Truth and Wisdom, share and act from Compassion and Love in our circles, families, and communities.
I felt my own wings and heart expand and grow last week…not just my mind.
There was a deep knowing that I am perfectly perched, ready to take off and soar with my message.
It’s time to take a stand. Rooted in our physical self and connected to our divine self. Guided by our Passion/Purpose and Pleasure.
My new mantra for the next 100 days is:
I am a powerful creatrix who easily receives outrageous prosperity creating beauty and excellence all around me, simply by being my authentic embodied self.
What is yours?
©️ 2017 DeborahLeeAnn.com
Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting
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So, where were YOU during the Great American Eclipse?
Whether you experienced Totality or not, I’m certain the experience was meaningful. Some enjoyed the science of it, others the photography challenges of capturing the beauty, others were deep in spiritual ceremony and ritual. Everyone was moved in some way, even if they ran outside into the street to capture it for only a moment during a break from work.
For such a momentous occasion, I did something quite unlike me. I was with a party of revelers – some of whom popped their first beer (artisan brand that it was) at 7:15 am. This well-orchestrated event was planned months ago and I appreciated not having to make any arrangements and just show up.
So Show Up I did.
We were at a large multi-leveled outdoor space an hour outside of town, with all breakfast and barbecue lunch and refreshments included. A variety of outdoor games and oversized Jenga and Chess boards entertained many. Seating arrangements varied from couches, to tables and chairs, to picnic tables and benches, plus indoor dining areas all filled with groups in conversation and live music. There was a constant and steady buzz that surrounded me. I felt like an observer of it all.
I watched myself pull away to find space and journal. I noticed when I got up to change seating arrangements or moved into different circles of conversation. I enjoyed sipping coffee and water and beer as the day wore on and relaxing. It felt like being on vacation. By myself.
I enjoyed moving when I felt like it, enjoying my body’s grace and strength and sitting and feeling the breeze when it wafted over me on occasion. I listened to my body when it asked for more water, please! or it’s time to get something to eat, or only one bite of the Moon Pie, methinks.
As the day wore on, I noticed how I searched out certain people to speak with and later realized I only once learned someone’s name. Yet, we exchanged deep, almost intimate details about our lives. It was not a day of light conversation.
It was also interesting to note that I spent most of the day in the company of men. Two different couples, a group of young people with 3 guys and one gal, an older gentleman and his son who was close to my age, and the very handsome and interesting friend of a friend who came in town to visit for the event.
An all around different kind of day for me; one who normally stays home and shies away from these types of party events.
And, the best part? I got to SHINE. I played with it all day. It was fun, fascinating and easy. AND, so freeing to not feel I needed to play a role, entertain anyone, be anything other than who I am. Wow!
The moon tried to cover the sun for those 2 1/2 minutes, and the sun still made beautiful light flares and rings around it. Almost hugging that which tried to eclipse it. Surrounding it and shining anyway.
Reminding me and all of us that we are still Light, even when there are obstacles (real or imaginary) that are trying to dim our Light.
What looks or feels different to you now? What has shifted for you? I’d love to hear! Share with me in The SHINE Challenge Facebook Group.
SHINE on! It’s our reason for living. It’s also our Purpose. And Passion. And Pleasure.
© Copyright 2017 Deborah LeeAnn :: Authentic Life Radio
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While speaking to a few clients recently, we discussed what “lights them up” or makes their “heart sing.”
In each case, it has to do with doing work they love: work that has meaning for them, uses their strengths and talents, and that that brings them joy.
It’s 3 pronged.
Being “on purpose.” Being “in joy.” All while using our unique gifts and competencies.
The beauty is …when we are creating a life that is full of meaning, deeply aligned with who we are and what we do well and best AND that is pleasurable to us, we SHINE.
Often, we hear “Wow, you look so happy!” Or, “What are you doing differently” or “Are you in Love?” when we are in the flow of creating and living a life we love.
So, are you?
Creating and living a life you LOVE?
One that is on your terms? Built on what feels true and authentic to you?
My garden is currently displaying these “wildflowers” from a packet of seeds spread last year. There are beautiful old-fashioned phlox that just bloom in all their beauty no matter the heat or rain. They just keep standing tall and doing their thing. Living their purpose. Not worried about drought or humidity or what the news is blaring.
This has become my new mantra. To tune in and remember the fullness, beauty, and sovereignty of Who. I. Am.
The wholeness/holiness and inner connection (or intersection) of all of me. The embodiment of my Soul. The beaming of my heart. The brilliance of ME that cannot be denied.
So where does that light go when we are confronted with Showing Up? Sharing who we are with the world? Expressing our Self amidst colleagues and other SHINING souls? Or those we believe are less SHINE-y than ourSelves?
Where do you dim to fit in? Or quasi-SHINE with an inauthentic “trying to be better than”? Or, be honest, hold back our SHINE in fear of being judged as “too bright” or “too much”?
Listen in. Let’s see what unfolds.
We’re all in this together. And the more each of us SHINEs the more we create a brighter world. There’s plenty of room for all of us to SHINE!
I welcome your feedback! For more information on the SHINE workshop series or to make a comment or ask a question, please connect with me at deborah@DeborahLeeAnn.com.
Combining an Integrated Style of Leadership Starts From the Inside-Out
Thanks for indulging me a moment of your time. (time to read: 90 seconds)
Feeling the chaos? There’s actually an acronym used to describe the Volatility, Uncertainty, Change and Ambiguity we are experiencing in our business and economic climate, VUCA.
It’s time to Grow, Change, or get out of the way!
As a Leader, your role is balancing being a visionary, trustworthy, confident and courageous, while leading your team or organization To, Through or For change and growth. Authenticity is key to all of the leadership traits and actually pushes competencies to the next level. Yet, a lack of Authenticity? Drains the energy from all you are trying to do. It’s that important!
Yet most leadership development and culture assessments measure and point to Outer Game plans (structure, trainings, talent management systems) to create change for a leader or organization. The work that is needed is the Inner Game. The underlying tendencies or issues that have created the current reality of leadership style, both individually and collectively, are what holds back an estimated 80% of individuals and companies who are implementing change management. Do you really want to stay where you are? I doubt it.
Please allow me to (re-)introduce myself.
I’m Deborah LeeAnn: Speaker, Trainer and Paradigm-Shifter.
And whether we’ve met recently at a conference or a networking event, or we go back decades in our history of working together, here’s an update on where my journey has taken me and the launch of a new business – training, speaking and mentoring Authentic Leadership.
After many years of consulting, mostly in the area of organizational development, training and human resources, I found myself at a crossroads. How to be Authentic, truly revealing my full array of strengths, passions, and brilliance. Openly sharing from a genuine, honest, open and loving space.
It was not easy.
I worried (still do, to be honest) what people would think of me.
Yet, I was not able to continue acting like I was a certain way and hiding my spiritual or emotional sides. Integrating them all seemed like the easiest route (much to the dismay of some well-meaning business coaches and mentors) yet ended up being the most arduous journey I’ve ever been on.
We see those who radiate their brilliance on stage or in a meeting and we wonder, is it easy for her to be so true and real? She seems so courageous! And confident! How did she get to be so comfortable in her skin? I want what she has!
Authenticity actually not only shines from the individual, it gives us permission to be our most authentic, real selves too!
And, our discernment with all the media sources bombarding us is to search out what sounds true? What messages feel good? Which ones create a visceral sense in our gut? What images or people touch our heart?
Those are the stirrings of our Authentic Self. When we feel, hear, taste, sense and sigh with the essence of something that hits home.
Why is it important in leadership? Because those we are leading can sense when we are on mission, passionate and committed, or off our game, in our own doubt, self-critical and fearful.
We need to play full out. Authentically. And it’s easier said than done.
So, after much dancing between what I wanted to be and how I wanted to show up with how I actually was showing up, my journey with Authentic Leadership was begun. Now came the gathering of feedback, lots of coaching and deep inner work, to get to the place of congruity. Alignment. And Authenticity. It’s not an end-game. It’s a journey.
Hence why we need outside support to facilitate and guide the process.
Authentic Leadership is the outcome of my own personal and professional journey, with the addition of years of coaching, trainings, experience and mentoring.
Authentic Leadership will have 2 arms;
Authentic Leadership Consulting with organizations ready to really step up their game in conscious, forward-thinking, change leadership, while developing an inclusive culture and creating a wider social impact through collective leadership and collaboration.
Authentic Leadership Academy is training, developing and masterminding with individual women leaders. (It’s open to all, while being designed for women) This 6 month program will take leadership development up several notches by focusing beyond outer competencies and game plan to expand each participant’s reach to expand her influence and impact while deepening into the inner game of leadership. Self-Awareness of where each of us gets stuck and holds us back from living, leading and loving from our most authentic, brilliant Selves.
We are in the midst of unprecedented change requiring us to lead from a newly found groundedness and more integrated center. When we show up as self-aware and courageous authentic leaders clear in our visions, we create the community… the connections … and the trust we need and desire to get our big work done in the world.
Lastly, I’d love to know where YOU are. What’s on your plate for 2017? 2018? Beyond? Is your vision maxed out or in need of refreshing? Are you ready to grow your business or initiative to the next level and in need of support to get there? How is your collective leadership? Are you ready to lead to, through, and for change? Where are you stuck? Have you had a 360 in a while? Time for a culture 360?
I hope we cross paths soon. If you’d like to schedule some time for a call or cup of coffee to continue the conversation, here’s a link to my calendar.
Comments? Questions? Please share!
Or, feel free to email me at Deborah@DeborahLeeAnn.com or give me a call at 314.800.7694.