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I’m a gardener. A cook. A traveler. A spiritual guide. A paradigm-shifter. A conscious connector and conversationalist.
Like many of us, it’s difficult to say I’m anything else besides a mother, an entrepreneur, a leadership trainer. We tend to limit ourSelves to our job title or what our role is at home. Like many of us, it’s been a learning opportunity to say I’m anything else besides a mother, an entrepreneur, a leadership trainer.
For years, I was governed (and took comfort) in having a job description. A job title. A business card that stated my role and who I worked for.
There’s security in that. In having a written out instruction and policy manual, a clear printed out Roles and Responsibilities, along with who I worked for, worked with, and how to measure my performance.
In only a few years after leaving the corporate world, I was yearning for that same structure. It was long gone, in my marriage and role as mother and wife.
No one gave me accolades or bonuses on bringing up a profit margin or how many clients were served compared to last year’s same quarter.
And it continued to become more ambiguous as I navigated my way through a rocky marriage, parenting our daughters and finding my peer group of older moms to socialize with. My other friends from work were NOT stay-at-home moms. They didn’t understand my angst at not knowing how I was doing. Not having that consistent feedback from my VP or clients meant I had to start figuring out my own progress. Measure my own performance.
That wasn’t easy for me as I listened to the regular negative commentary from my then spouse.
It’s been a journey of self-discovery to undo that messaging in my mind, heart, body, and spirit.
Over 10 years later, I’m continuing to rewire and rewrite or completely self-author who I am. How I’m doing and how I’m feeling. I get to hear feedback from others and ask myself, “Is that true?” “Does it even apply to me or my experience?” Or “Is that their story showing up through my actions or their own reactions to me?”
It’s been a great decade. As I continue to unfold, blossom and show up, just like the new wildflowers, perennials, biannuals, and weeds in my garden, I see that there are a divine beauty and wild mystery to the timing of things.
Let’s see where this unfolds today as we dive into Self-Authoring. Learning about who we are as we are being reflected back by others, our gardens, the Universe.
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Thanks, I’ve got this.
No really, I do!
You see, what YOU think of ME, is none of my business.
I read that book. About 40 years ago, in fact. Here’s a link, if you’re curious.
It had a profound effect on me then, and it still does.
Yet, I forget. I worry about what to write and how to write it and how to show up in what clothes and what people think and the feedback I get (even if it is good!)
How can we get OVER ourselves? Follow our own guidance and trust when it’s time to ask for guidance from others. There is a huge difference.
I’d like to tell you a story about how other’s were concerned about me 10 years ago and how I switched it back and took back my power – and it was magical!
I was divorced, running out of money and networking all over town to find the perfect job that would utilize my talents, give me the flexibility to be Mom to my middle-school-aged daughters and pay me enough for my household expenses as I was not receiving child support.
A dear friend and my mother both shared with me they were concerned (afraid, actually) for me and worried about when I was going to find a job. I assured them both, calmly and assertively, that I wanted only their confidence in me and to imagine me happily working and paying my bills. They both agreed and within the next month or so, not one but TWO contracts for my consulting work were signed!
So, let’s get back IN-to our own self, stop minding others’ business and ask politely that they not get into ours unless invited.
©2018 https://deborahleeann.com Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting
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Even though I spoke these words last week, they are as true today as ever.
Where are you playing small?
Where do you lose your value?
When do you dim your light?
It’s time. For us to INHALE the inspiration we are constantly receiving, and EXHALE our creative spin on it. Our voices, art, written words, and dance are needed now.
We are all stepping up. Stepping IN. Stepping forward. Marching together towards change.
Conscious leadership is required of us all. And that means showing up. SHINING brightly. No apologies. No more hiding.
Ready? Let’s do this.
Join me for a free training next week to kick off Self-Love Month. Details can be found on my website, Facebook, Instagram or LinkedIn profiles.
© 2018 https://deborahleeann.com
Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting
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Leadership Magic – my Theme for 2018
It’s a topsy-turvy, sometimes High, sometimes low world right now, right?
The optimism and clarity I felt on New Year’s Day and even the 2nd were exhilarating and I was excited to return to “work” from my short sabbatical.
Yet, today, after waking early to an inspiration that I recorded before falling back to sleep, the rest of the day has taken me in circles. Back into spirals of grief, forward into the thrills of new meetings and opportunities on the horizon, then deep into self-critical stuff. Probably all before I finished my 2nd cup of coffee!
Well, I’m back into the swing again here, after honoring my feelings and listening to intuition…and ready to get into it!
So, what is Leadership Magic?
It’s the inner glow you have when you are:
- Self-Responsible and
We’ll be playing with these areas and defining the concepts as we move throughout the first quarter of 2018.
SHINE is still my signature though, as it’s the foundation for true Leadership Magic.
I’m just playing deeper with the concepts of the intrinsic light that we have and so often dim or turn off due to fear, failure, or to “fit in”.
So, let’s get started, shall we?
Leadership Magic begins with Power. And to turn on your Power, it’s essential to have a Vision. To be Open to Possibilities. To TRUST. And to be Present, showing up with a radiant Presence.
Lots of emphases here as we can’t get where we want to go without these basics.
So, here’s my take on each of them. Enjoy!
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Of our Eclipse Season
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This is a big month. For someone who is not oriented to the stars and planets and patterns they play out, it’s still important to note that these are extraordinary circumstances.
We are all effected by the planetary systems, our moon and sun in particular.
AND, when they cross over each other in their paths? That’s a big deal.
It’s rare to have this total solar eclipse be visible from the US. And, really fun that the path crosses right through our area!
Typically, this time can be considered a time when all brightness and shadows become one. A collapsing of dualities.
We are not all Light. Nor are we all Dark. This union of them is such a scientific marvel and a beautiful spiritual model for us as well.
Since we have so much chaos surrounding us, and even more that will be revealed during the coming month, it’s another call for Authenticity. Leadership with Authenticity is based on Integrity, rooted in Self-Awareness, a conscious model of both connection with others and a deep connection within.
Let’s dive in and see where this week’s podcast takes us. How fun that the SHINE Principle continues to grow and unfold for both mySelf and my community… it’s even being modeled by the heavens above us!
More info on all of the celestial happenings this month can be seen here:
Curious about the SHINE Principle? Check out the events on Facebook or the details here:https://deborahleeann.com/SHINE